First time for everything

it's gotta be said
I've been trying to "purge" myself of some very hateful thoughts since around 11:00. I'm hoping this might help.
I've been single since May after an almost 9 yr relationship. My ex couldn't/wouldn't hold a job, watch our son while I worked, attend any family functions, was wholly immersed in his own private hell of MAJOR DEPRESSION. Needless to say, I failed him, he failed me, we failed each other.... the relationship is over. He has become involved with someone. I knew eventually this was going to happen and thought I was pretty well prepared for it...yet here's the thing (this is going to get kindof confusing and the details are too specified and numerous to get into right this second, after all this is supposed to be a RANT). He picked up our son Saturday (the week before Christmas) for his first visitation since we separated in May. 1st things 1st, he was an hour and half late picking him up and OOPS an hour and a half late bringing him back home. During his visit our son got to spend time with his grandparents, his aunt AND (you guessed it) one of daddies friends playing with "their" kids (whoever the hell "THEIR" is). As my ex is leaving, thanking me for "being so cool" about the "whole visitation thing" he casually asks if I'm seeing or dating anyone I answer truthfully, what have I got to win or lose by that.... No, I'm not dating or seeing (or SLEEPING WITH, SCREWING, HAVING INTERCOURSE or FUCKING) anyone. Frankly I haven't had the time or the inclination yet to which he replies (while chuckling) "yeah I know exactly what you're saying, you just can't find anyone to measure up or who can compare to me".
I've been dwelling on that parting comment ever since. The drama continues when I meet "THEIR" and find out she's a "blast from his past" that WAS a blast from his past for several VERY justifiable reasons that for now I'll leave "unspoken".
FINALLY here's my POINT...
He has the unimaginable AUDACITY to say this to me under his own little "safety net" I don't know that he's going home to HER HOUSE, fucking her in her bed, once again trying to PLAY "family". If that fucking EGOMANIAC thinks that I am going to have any problems whatsoever finding "anyone" who measures up or is comparable to him he is CERTIFIABLE! Personality wise someone that can "measure up and compare" would be someone that lives in a nice little place the rest of us like to call REALITY where financial obligations and being responsible for your FAMILY are absolute givens, unconditional RULES TO LIVE BY not an ideal or an unattainable goal or optimistic DREAM, doesn't have to "one-up" everyone else constantly, someone that isn't an EXPERT on absolutely everything and someone that has enough confidence in themselves and faith in me to (get this ya'll) Not punish me constantly by being an insecure, untrusting, jealous, overpossessive JERK b/c SOMEONE FROM HIS PAST cheated on him, betrayed his faith and obviously FOREVER fucked up his ability to trust anyone else.
I will not be judged as harsh or pessimistic there are going to be some areas where he will be very HARD, hee hee hee, to replace, but I'm pretty sure in one form or another happiness will come my way once again.
So, I'm really anxious to hear any advice, comments etc etc etc, let em fly.

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